I saw this on someone's facebook status not too long ago and it really made me think. I realized how true it was. Why do we end up ruining relationships we have with close loved ones and try to make unhealthy ones work? Is it because we know that no matter what the ones who love us will always be there for us, whereas we fear that the ones who hurt us will leave us if we don't strive to keep them happy despite the fact that it will only end up damaging us more in the end?
You know the saying "Sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me"? Well clearly whoever came up with that was not human (probably some robot cyborg). 'Cause words do affect a person, deeper than you may think.
Sometimes we're too blind or too caught up in our own selfish ways to see that the people who love us just want the best for us, that's why when they give us advice in certain situations that displease us, we react by hurling bitter words at them, words that are not meant to cut that deep but do so anyway, words that once are out of one's mouth are impossible to take back. Words that rip a hole through your bare chest and pierce your fragile, beating heart. No matter how "tough", strong or heartless one appears to be, everyone is a victim. We underestimate the power of our words, the power of the human tongue. It's funny, it's only a tiny part the body, but with it we can start forest fires. By the time we realize how deeply we cut someone, it's already too late. But hey, we're not perfect, sometimes when we're angry, we say things in the heat of the moment, without thinking about how it will affect the person. And that's just it! we don't think before we speak. I can say for myself that I'm guilty of this. Because although we might not mean to cause others pain, the damage is inevitable.
Man, we can be real idiots sometimes believing we know what we're doing. We may even consciously know that they are right but often a little thing called pride gets in the way and we rebuke them anyway. However, this is a mistake we can all avoid, we just need to acquire more patience and self-control, in other words stop being so quick to anger. We also need to quit being so closed off to our loved ones, listen to their say and take it into consideration. They care about us and maybe they've been in our shoes and just don't want to see us get hurt. Being wise is to analyze our relationships, remove any trash (people) that aren't worth maintaining in our life.
So instead of spreading venom with our words we should try spreading joy and encouragement. Our words should bring life to our close relationships, not death.
This song is old but I absolutely love it! the lyrics hit me hard.
This is so true. Too often people say mean, spiteful, ugly things without considering other's feelings. To think before one talks would serve the world better.
ReplyDeleteIt's funny too how stubborn people are about good advice. I know it's hard to take advice but some people will acknowledge that you're right and still continue doing what's bad for them. It puts such a strain on the friendship. Oh well... I do believe some people need to fall before they can stand tall. It just sucks when falling ruins your friendship...
That'll never be us though... I love you too much! :)